Monday, September 21, 2009
Monday, September 14, 2009
What would you tell a 10-year-old about being in love? (8/13/09)
It's important to always be completely and totally honest in love no matter
what. Always be 100% yourself.
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The heart hurts a lot and this hurt deepens the spirit..it's like eating a lot m and m's and then feeling like you ate too much
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Enjoy it the feelings for they are beautiful.
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U g0t many fish in da sea.
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As soon as you stop looking for it, you find it.
The less you try to figure it out, the more you understand.
It's easier than they say, but not like in the movies.
Let's go climb a tree.
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Take it when and where you can get it 'cos true love doesn't come around all that often.
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Being in love is like being drunk on hormones and feelings. It makes you say and do thing you never have before. Sometimes it affects your judgment and makes you want to do things that might not be safe or smart. And it can stretch your heart in ways that confuse you and scare you, but it also feels so wonderful that you love anyway. But you get too confused or too hurt, you should talk to an adult you can trust. Because real love doesn't mean hurting on purpose. And if you hurt more often than you feel good...that's a really bad sign.
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you should have the V8 instead......
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It's the icing on the cake to a life of service and creativity. It's fun but it can be like a drug and you can abuse it. It's a great feeling but sometimes it turns into something deeper and sometimes it just disappears, and there are steps along the way to insure that it doesn't disappear. OK, maybe the last one was too much for a 10-yr-old, but the wisdom seeps in with repetition.
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True love is not critical or harmful. It is accepting and open to you despite your faults. True love does not require any thing, it is not controlling, needy or possessive: it just is because it is not an exterior fulfillment, it is internal and unlimited. Love because one cannot help but love. Love because it is love the way that they are and feel, and it is an action. One can know one is loved by the action of it. Never settle for less if the action of love is absent. Real love attracts real love...it is opening and it takes many many different forms through out life. It is o.k. to love a person even if they do not love you, because love requires nothing in return. Yet love the self enough to care to put oneself around the experience of others who care and love deeply, truly and openly...these are good partners to form lasting friendships and families with. If you are heart broken from a love that does not return or love fully, do not react to it even though you will. Understand that, your anger will not change that you love, your rage will not empower you to not love, your sadness will not leave you powerless to the person, love is. It is ultimate and it is perfect the way it is and does not require your control over it's mystery and way.
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That it will make you feel crazy. Because no matter what your beloved does, you cannot stop loving them. If you trust your heart to someone who wants to take care of it, you'll be okay. But if you trust your heart to someone who is only watching out for their own, you will be in trouble.
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I'm probably not the best person to tell anyone about being in love. When my heart was broken over a badly-ended relationship, when I was in my mid-twenties, I made an unconscious decision to never let myself get hurt like that again. Consequently, I never fell in love again. I have tried to undo that decision, but to no avail.
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Its nice to be in love, it feels good.
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Wait until you are 35!!
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That it is easy
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to space time with land, wait until the air perfects itself, don't introduce that love to an older man and don't get beyond 16 in years.
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I had two boys and, at 10 years old, the subject never even came close. Besides, their mother and I were separating and being in love was not the operative condition. If a 10 year old child asked me about being in love, which is where I'm assuming this question comes from, I would probably say it's like a really strong friendship and you know it will last a long time, maybe forever. That's the way it started out for me and I still wish it could have ended that way. Oh, well.
??
I haven't had much success with romantic love but ... I would say being in love is inspiring and strengthening, yet also requires unselfishness and foresight to give yourself over to another, to accept your lover for who they are - to see them - and to release your ego into something great. And being in love makes you want to face any challenge and to work at it, at life, to sustain that passion.
??
Look, kid, I'm seeing your mom and you're just going to have to get used to it.
??
And mine...
It's really fun when you go slowly. That way it won't rattle your heart.
what. Always be 100% yourself.
??
The heart hurts a lot and this hurt deepens the spirit..it's like eating a lot m and m's and then feeling like you ate too much
??
Enjoy it the feelings for they are beautiful.
??
U g0t many fish in da sea.
??
As soon as you stop looking for it, you find it.
The less you try to figure it out, the more you understand.
It's easier than they say, but not like in the movies.
Let's go climb a tree.
??
Take it when and where you can get it 'cos true love doesn't come around all that often.
??
Being in love is like being drunk on hormones and feelings. It makes you say and do thing you never have before. Sometimes it affects your judgment and makes you want to do things that might not be safe or smart. And it can stretch your heart in ways that confuse you and scare you, but it also feels so wonderful that you love anyway. But you get too confused or too hurt, you should talk to an adult you can trust. Because real love doesn't mean hurting on purpose. And if you hurt more often than you feel good...that's a really bad sign.
??
you should have the V8 instead......
??
It's the icing on the cake to a life of service and creativity. It's fun but it can be like a drug and you can abuse it. It's a great feeling but sometimes it turns into something deeper and sometimes it just disappears, and there are steps along the way to insure that it doesn't disappear. OK, maybe the last one was too much for a 10-yr-old, but the wisdom seeps in with repetition.
??
True love is not critical or harmful. It is accepting and open to you despite your faults. True love does not require any thing, it is not controlling, needy or possessive: it just is because it is not an exterior fulfillment, it is internal and unlimited. Love because one cannot help but love. Love because it is love the way that they are and feel, and it is an action. One can know one is loved by the action of it. Never settle for less if the action of love is absent. Real love attracts real love...it is opening and it takes many many different forms through out life. It is o.k. to love a person even if they do not love you, because love requires nothing in return. Yet love the self enough to care to put oneself around the experience of others who care and love deeply, truly and openly...these are good partners to form lasting friendships and families with. If you are heart broken from a love that does not return or love fully, do not react to it even though you will. Understand that, your anger will not change that you love, your rage will not empower you to not love, your sadness will not leave you powerless to the person, love is. It is ultimate and it is perfect the way it is and does not require your control over it's mystery and way.
??
That it will make you feel crazy. Because no matter what your beloved does, you cannot stop loving them. If you trust your heart to someone who wants to take care of it, you'll be okay. But if you trust your heart to someone who is only watching out for their own, you will be in trouble.
??
I'm probably not the best person to tell anyone about being in love. When my heart was broken over a badly-ended relationship, when I was in my mid-twenties, I made an unconscious decision to never let myself get hurt like that again. Consequently, I never fell in love again. I have tried to undo that decision, but to no avail.
??
Its nice to be in love, it feels good.
??
Wait until you are 35!!
??
That it is easy
??
to space time with land, wait until the air perfects itself, don't introduce that love to an older man and don't get beyond 16 in years.
??
I had two boys and, at 10 years old, the subject never even came close. Besides, their mother and I were separating and being in love was not the operative condition. If a 10 year old child asked me about being in love, which is where I'm assuming this question comes from, I would probably say it's like a really strong friendship and you know it will last a long time, maybe forever. That's the way it started out for me and I still wish it could have ended that way. Oh, well.
??
I haven't had much success with romantic love but ... I would say being in love is inspiring and strengthening, yet also requires unselfishness and foresight to give yourself over to another, to accept your lover for who they are - to see them - and to release your ego into something great. And being in love makes you want to face any challenge and to work at it, at life, to sustain that passion.
??
Look, kid, I'm seeing your mom and you're just going to have to get used to it.
??
And mine...
It's really fun when you go slowly. That way it won't rattle your heart.
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