And now, the question....
Once again, photo courtesy of http://jameth.livejournal.com/
(There were two questions this week. The answers appear below, in the order the questions were asked)
Who has more power in a romantic pursuit: The pursued or the pursuer?
Whoever has the least investment in the process.
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THE PURSUED. That assumes the "pursued" has some life experience and can recognize the "pursuer" and deal with the intentions of same.
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Pursued. Unless we're talking about some freaky stalker horror movie. Please don't tell me we're talking about that. I don't like horror movies.
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In a pair, the person with the least desire for something always has the (most) power.
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The pursued. That which is desired holds the power.
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the pursued
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the perused.
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One would think that the 'pursurer'. However I feel that once the pursuee realizes what is going on, the 'pursurer' is a goner.
From a recovering 'pursuer'.
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In my opinion (and experience) the pursued has more power. The pursuer is the one to make her- or himself vulnerable by showing interest in the first place, giving the one being pursued veto power over the whole transaction. I realize of course that reality is never that simple but that's the best I can do for now.
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entirely depends on gender
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the purse
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The pursued. We are talking romance, not dysfunction or abuse issues or any other psychodrama, in romance the object of desire has the power
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This question has too many other variables and is not an either/or situation. I have a emotional response to this question, but I know it is personal and cannot be given globally.
I have another better question. Where is my umbrella? The answer is that I don't have the faintest idea and it is raining. That is solid.
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Whoever feels the best and has the best intentions.
Attraction and love gives one energy, if that energy can be utilized in a productive way, creatively and not in an obsessive way, then it can give one power. No matter what side you are on.
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Whoever wants it more
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The pursued. The pursued has the power encourage or discourage the pursuer. If the pursuer is a psychopath, that's a pursuit of another dimension.
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That all depends on if the Pursued wants to be persured or not. Sometimes the Pursuer becomes a Stalker - not a good thing - when the Pursued doesn't wish to be persued by the Pursuer.
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the pursued...they decide if the ending will be happy or not...
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Definitely the pursued. Everyone likes to be chased!
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Well, it depends on how well the pursuer pursues. There are a kind of people that have developed a familure relationship with attraction itself, and this person can turn a pursuit into a courtship easily by listening and delivering a specialized attention, by anticipating another's needs in such a subtle way so as to convince artfully the person being pursued that it is in the best interest to form neutrality...that the person pursuing is convincing in ideals. Almost always this sort of power has it's limitations, however. Any time a person creates the illusion of exterior needs being fulfilled, be it through means of physical attraction, money, status etc. All of these are temporary and this sort of power is bound to collapse eventually, as the person who grows dependent on the pursuer realizes that the source of fulfillment is not gained with the tax of another's external offers (which always are better in theory and even with good intention lacks the recipe of growth due to the nature of pursuit itself...that is, desire.) The person who is being pursued has the obvious power of choice, a monumental power, that is short lived. As soon as the person being pursued consents, the power is lost. There for, the most powerful of all, is the person who is honest with oneself, who, has the goal to share instead of own.
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Depends. Which one am I in this scenario?
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Neither.
Isn't The Pursued chasing in their own way, and The Pursuer sought after?
If two people are coming together in hopes of becoming whole, then they will only be trying to get their own needs met.
When each lover already has their own spark of inspiration there is no power difference between the two. Trust, love, and delight in being together are shared equally.
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The pursued!! People totally lose focus when you have something they
think they need
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equal distribution...without one the other is irrelevant
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And mine...
I always feel like the pursuer has the power. However, now that I think about it, when I have pursued is when it's never really worked out. Huh.
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Please list albums/cds that make you happy.
I think you should publish all the answers to the original question even if they are all the same. Especially if they are all the same! I find it more artistic and interesting than a frickin' list of favorite CDs.
...and you should publish this.
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The Vandalias' "Mach V". It's one of the few albums I can listen to from beginning to end.
Favorite lyric: "It don't take a B.A. to know the party's over."
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Everything by the Beatles makes me smile, guaranteed.
“Little” Michael Jackson tunes
Stone Roses first LP
Vampire Weekend
Bowie – all of it.
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Crosby, Stills & Nash 1st album.
Mark Knopfler - Shangri-La
Beatles
Hard Days Night
Rubber Soul
Revolver
Sergeant Pepper's...
Grateful Dead
Workingman's Dead
American Beauty
Etcetera...
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Fishbone – any of the first 3 albums
Pixies – first 3 albums
Beasties Boys – Check Your Head
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a superswift totally unthoughtout list of twenty (with only the first one in order):
1. Johnny Cash at Folsom Prison
2. Hüsker Dü’s Zen Arcade
3. Bob Marley’s Rasta Revolution (on the old Trojan record label)
4. Beethoven’s Ninth Symphony
5. Saint-Saens Organ Symphony
6. Gang of Four’s Entertainment
7. The Specials first album
8. Sleater-Kinney’s All Hands on the Bad One (and Dig Me Out)
9. The Byrd’s Sweethearts of the Rodeo
10. The Pogues’ Rum, Sodomy and the Lash
11. Kinks albums from the 60's and early 70's
12. Funkadelic’s One Nation Under a Groove
13. Hole’s Live Through This
14. Any original Velvet Underground album
15. The Clash’s first album
16. The Sex Pistols’ Never Mind the Bollocks
17. John Coltrane’s Meditations
18. Miles Davis’ Kind of Blue
19. Bikini Kill’s Pussy Whipped
20. The Gits' Enter: The Conquering Chicken
and also:
*** A set of mix tapes of greatest hits of the Lovin’ Spoonful, the Box Tops, Beach Boys,
Donovan, The Rascals, Simon & Garfunkel and others popmakers of that period.
Lots is missing.
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I like White Stripes right now, Icky Thump and White Stripes, last and first albums. New live stones album, shine a light. combined Swans cd which is Children of God and World of Skin which is wonderfully intense, fucked up and beautiful...
Album/Compact Disk by Public Image Limited.
that's this week. in general, music that makes me happy is a mix of loud guitar rock, punk, ambient, experimental stuff like throbbing gristle, some jazz, and funk or stuff with lovely vocals. I enjoyed seeing Ministry this year and I'm looking fwd to seeing My Bloody Valentine and possibly Primus soon. dance music, electronic, great for listening And dancing...
I would like to add Funkadelic, Maggot Brain to that list for now.
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Two Questions in one Week! Which to answer? Both, of course!
I like CDs where I can sing along. So, CDs of SF Choral Society performances (I usually have my part memorized by the time a concert is performed), Barry Manilow, Johnny Mathis, Michael Bolton, Josh Groban, Barbra Streisand, Audra MacDonald, and just about anything Christmas Carol-y.
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Anything by Leonard Cohen.
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"Come Fly With Me" by Frank Sinatra
"Welcome Interstate Managers" by Fountains of Wayne
"The Best of Dean Martin" (Captitol, 1966) by Dean Martin
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Rockferry Duffy
Frank Amy Winehouse
Spirit Leona Lewis
Wicked Original Bway cast
Company Orig. Bway cast
Legally Blonde Orig. Bway cast
Songs of Mass Destruction Annie Lennox
Brooklyn the musical Orig. Bway cast
I have SO Many!!!
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Whats an album? I just get songs off of I-tunes....like "simple man" and "mama's don't let your babys grow up to be cowboys".....these types of songs do the trick for me.
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Vivaldi's Four Seasons...performed by any full orchestra
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Rolling Stones' Hot Rocks
Fleetwood Mac's Rumours
The Best of Bowie
Steely Dan's Aja
Donald Fagen's Nightfly
and alas, true to my homo heart, the soundtrack of "Chicago"
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The Clash - London Calling
Rancid - And Out Come the Wolves
Mighty Mighty Bosstones - Don't Know How to Party
Hot Water Music - Never Ender
Bouncing Souls - Anchors Aweigh
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AC/DC - Back in Black
Waylon Jennings - Dreamin My Dreams
Grateful Dead - anything, but especially live shows and Without A Net
Flaming Lips - Yoshimi Battles the Pink Robots
Greg Brown - Bathtub Blues
YAZ - both albums
Lots more but that's a start!
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Absolutely anything at all by Me First and The Gimme Gimmes. Music so bouncy that it suffers no mope within its area of affect.
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Paul Simon: Negotiations and Love Songs
Guns n Roses: Appetite for Destruction
Jazz Duets: Louie Armstrong and Ella Fitzgerald
Trombone Shorty and Orleans Avenue Live at Jazzfest 2008
Bo Dollis and the Wild Magnolias: "I'm Back, (At Mardi Gras Time)"
Brazz Tree: "Spiral On"
Leonard Bernstien doing Rhapsody in Blue, by Gershwin
George Carlin (RIP): You are all diseased
Bill Cosby's Noah and the Ark
The Violent Femmes (just came across a cassette tape, haha)
Donna Summers, On the Radio
ABBA: The GOlden Hits
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There are two Queen albums that I love. One's got a burgundy cover, one's black. Basically it's all the best Queen songs in two perfect CDs. I also used to feel very relaxed after listening to James Blunt's first album... now it just sounds kind of whiny. :(
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Julieta Venegas' Unplugged CD
Belanova's Dulce Beat
Miguel Bosé's Papito
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I love these albums, they make my day every time
"New York" by Lou Reed
self titled Velvet Underground *The Andy Warhol painting is also
lovely cover art*
"Brown Book" by Death in June
"Music, Martini's and Misanthropy" by Boyd Rice and Friends
"Washing Machine" by Sonic Youth
"Nunsexmonkrock" by Nina Hagen
"Beauty Reaps the Blood of Solitude" by Nature and
Organisation....this one is supposed to be released on CD. When it is,
listen to it, it's one of the best collaborations I have ever heard.
"Back in Black" ACDC
"Pretty Ugly" Lunachicks
"The First 2 Albums on CD" by Bikini Kill
"This Island" by Le Tigre
"The Serpent's Egg" and "Spiritchaser" by Dead Can Dance
"The Black Mass" and "Satan Takes a Holiday" by Anton Szandor LaVey
Thank you, this is a rad concept. I saw a picture of your request in
chalk from Jameth from Livejournal, Flickr, etc.
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Surprise Me Mr. Davis
The Slip
CSNY
Feist
Wilco!
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The Presidents of the United States of America - II
It is perfect in every way.
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Hi there,
I assume I'm going to get spammed by some marketer who's all like "if you like blah blah, then you'll love the new CD by blah blah" but what the hell, maybe you're just looking for some awesome music. Here are some albums that make me happy:
Badly Drawn Boy - The Hour of Bewilderbeast
The Notwist - Neon Golden
Radiohead - Kid A
Lykke Li - Youth Novels
Television - Marquee Moon
Hot Chip - Made In The Dark
King Khan and the Shrines - What Is?!
Fleet Foxes - Sun Giant
Cat Power - The Greatest
etc.
my own plug:
thisrecording.com
tumbledore.tumblr.com
SFfun.blogspot.com
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Neutral Milk Hotel "In the airplane over the sea"
Kool Keith "Sex Style"
the Wu Tang song "Method Man"
Almost anything by the Liars or Melt Banana.
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recent albums:
my morning jacket - live double album
beck - modern guilt
anything by pearl jam
tupac
please leave more messages. did you get your answer as to 'how it works'. if not, let me know and i can tell you.
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rogue wave - Descended Like Vultures
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Saw the sidewalk chalk on the way home yesterday...
So why not really.
The Hush Sound - Like Vines has always made me happy, as it just seems to be filled with a vibrant happy-go-lucky energy. Great album for telling depression to sod off.
Mates of State - Re-arrange Us is my other new obsession, as it's varied enough to keep me interested on Bart, but still wonderful in its execution.
Tilly and the Wall - o is great, if only because they're completely awesome live.
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The shins - chutes too narrow
animal collective - strawberry jam
michael jackson - thriller
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1) Steel Pulse, True Democracy
2) Stevie Wonder, Definitive Collection
3) Thelonius Monk, Thelonius Monk with John Coltrane
Single Songs:
1) Little Wing, Stevie Ray Vaughn
2) My Cheri Amore, Stevie Wonder
3) Mahna Mahna
4) Trinkle Tinkle, Thelonius Monk
5) Mercy Street, Black Uhuru
6) Banana Phone
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"Her Majesty" by The Decemberists
"Fire" by Electric Six
"Glow" by The Innocence Mission
"Funeral" by The Arcade Fire
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tori amos, little earthquakes
joni mitchell, court and spark
annie lennox, diva
kings of convenience, riot on an empty street
patty griffin, 1000 kisses
madonna, confessions on a dance floor
john mayer, continuum
leela james
john legend, let's get lifted
jill scott
i think that'll do it....
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Avalon, Roxy Music
Ever Changing Moods, Style Council
Everlasting Blink, Bent
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haunted, poe.
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"hallelujah" Jeff Buckley
"o" Damien Rice
"until the sun turns black" ray lamontagne
"slingshot professionals" Kelly joe Phelps
Though they are all kind of depressing!
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LOVE this question! Being a singer/songwriter music in one of the most important things in my life. I feel drawn to answer this question in my own way and list SONGS that make me happy, not CDs. Here they are in all their eclectic glory, in no particular order.
Punk/Rock:
the Creatures: Standing there (so angry, so freeing!)
Siouxsie and the Banshees: Spellbound
Nine Inch Nails: Closer
Red Hot Chili Peppers: Give it away
Loudlife: Let go of the Wheel
Guesch Patti: Etienne
Pop/Rock
The feeling: Sewn and I love it when you call
Kate Bush: Hounds of Love
Peter Gabriel: Contact
Funk/Disco
Pick up the pieces - Average White Band
You make me Feel - Sylvester
Jungle Boogie - Kool and the Gang
OK, Now here are some ALBUMS:
Shawn Colvin - Fat city
Fountains of Wayne: Welcome Interstate Managers
Supremes a Go-Go
The Ventures - Knock Me Out
Traffic - John Barelycorn Must Die
Teena Marie - It must be Magic
I can't wait to read what the rest of you QOW-ers write! I hope to discover some cool music! Music is the safest most meaningful way for me to have my feelings. I don't know what I'd do without it.
I also encourage our wonderful Jocelyn to ask what songs/albums move us the most, which make us think the most, what are some and what songs we just don't get!
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Most anything involving Brian Wilson/The Beach Boys. "Wild Honey", "Pet Sounds" (of course), "Smile", "Sunflower", and the box set sit up front. After that there are so many -- so I'll give you a few overlooked to kind of overlooked gems: The Kinks, "Are the Village Green Preservation Society" and "Kronikles" (a comp); Love, "Forever Changes"; NRBQ, "Peekaboo' (also a comp), Peter Hosapple and Chris Stamey, "Mavericks"; Dwight Twilley Band, "Sincerely"; and the amazing "Shake Some Action" by the Flamin' Groovies.
Gotta stop somewhere.....
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The Fratellis-Costello Music
Styx-Greatest Hits
Queen-Every Album
Vertical Horizon-Everything You Want
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And mine...
Lately, Details by Frou Frou, Best of Booty 2007,
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